She does not want to be put under an obligation and too many gifts make her feel that she now has to do something for you. It is perfectly appropriate to give her flowers but don’t give her flowers, chocolate in a heart shaped box and a new car. Let’s say you and your beautiful clerk are now having dinner together this evening. Most people love gifts but there are times when gifts are unwelcome. Move on! There are many wonderful ladies out there who are looking for a caring and nice person like you. If they do and do not want to talk to you because of them, they are not worth it anyway. Most people don’t even notice these things. Instead find things that you agree on.ĭon’t worry if you are a little overweigh or feel you are too short or have any other personal attribute that bothers you. If you do this, this will be your last date and you will have no one to blame but yourself. Don’t blow it now by trying to impress her with how smart, big, or strong you are, and how dumb, weak, and misguided she is. Let’s say your adorable check out person has accepted your invite for coffee! Yay! This is a big step. There is no quicker way to make someone hate your guts than to take an opposing viewpoint to theirs and then try to convince them that they are wrong. Avoid subjects on which you do not agree. From there an invitation for coffee is a perfect next step to get to know each other better. If you keep this up each time you go through the checkout line, you will find that soon you are friends. Resist with all your might the impulse to start talking about yourself. “Oh, my mom bought it for me for my birthday!’ You then smile and say “What a great mom you have!” or something that you know she will agree with. Generally they will tell you a little bit about the piece. ⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄įor example, you have just commented favorably on a piece of jewelry (or a sweater or scarf) and the conversation has started. All you have to be is a good listener and respond with things that are pertinent to the subject at hand. You don’t have to be dazzling or brilliant. They will automatically start feeling a little better about you. If you find a piece of jewelry on them and you comment favorably to them about it, you will be met with the person looking up and seeing you and not some nameless, faceless person. I find that women love jewelry and take time and effort to choose and wear pieces that look nice. When you get to the check out, find something you like about the checkout person. Go to the supermarket or somewhere where you will have to interact with people. Take the time to build common ground and understanding. And whatever you do, don’t waste your time talking to pseudo personalities. Find someone who doesn’t have as much baggage. If the person you are talking to makes it too hard to access that perfect person underneath, move on. In some people it is easier to see this perfect person than in others, and in some it is so hidden by strange pseudo personalities and other weird baggage that it is almost absent.
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